The Science Behind Men and Women - Part I

There are a lot of differences between the brains of men and women that scientists still debate about. One thing however seems clear -- biological differences account for at least some of the major differences between the attitudes and behaviors of men and women. Cultural practices is the effect, not the cause.

When couples engage in the context of, instead of despite of, their uniqueness, the engagement is much more romantic.
Photo: "Chris & Jessica Engagement" by Jeremy Blanchard

If you accept that men and women are indeed different, then perhaps there is no need to read further. But it wouldn't hurt to pick up more ideas for discussion with people who interpret, in a very literal sense, the statement that "men and women are born equal."

Let me explain . . .

Deal With It -- Tough Questions Are as Certain as Death and Taxes

Tough questions are as certain as death and taxes in today's world. In the ever increasing pace of the information age, how are we dealing with that reality?

Benjamin Franklin is quoted to have said, "The only things certain in life are death and taxes."

What popular quote would Benjamin Franklin possibly leave behind if he is alive today and holding an iPhone logged on to Twitter?
Photo Credit: Wikimedia

An apparent reaction to this was a quote from an unknown guy who said, "Death and taxes may be certain, but we don't have to die every year."

This unknown guy makes a lot of sense, doesn't he?

The 10 Mind-Opening Questions About Men and Women

While men and women are two equal sides of the same species called Homo sapiens, there are differences in their biology and psyche that play a large part in their daily interaction. Creating an inventory of how much you know about these differences is a good start towards greater understanding of one of the true wonders of life: the gender.

The world is replete with information about the differences between men and women ... how much of these have you absorbed and used?

As your online coach, let me help you juggle your mind ...

Four Ways of Understanding People

Human Behavior has already been mapped out. The challenge to everyone is how to put it to good use.

"This guy is born to annoy me," said one of my colleagues in the office. He just couldn't stand the behavior of someone whom he thought to be too loud-mouthed and attention-seeking. The rest of us think the other guy is great because he's good in breaking the ice (I admit sometimes he overdid it, but you get the picture).

We think people are complicated. At the end of the day, people's personalities fall under one or two of only four categories.
Photo Credit: "In Spire Wind" by Éole Wind

We don't understand other people ourselves, right? I mean, it used to make me go nuts trying to understand someone who sits down in a conversation and never talks! He just listens and smiles, never making an opinion, never siding on any debate, and just calmly stares at us who calmly do the "work" of analyzing how a great basketball player could have possibly missed that one important shoot (the discussion was over bottles of beer, of course).

The Real Truth About Your Ability to Deal With Depression

Depression is more like the stage of moaning after a fall. Have you ever fallen after tripping on a rock? You stay a few moments down there and moan, right? After all, your foot really hurts.

"Where is my mind?" by Jennifer Konig

But you do rise up and walk again, right? How did you do it? You just do it, right?

I see you. There's no denying the pain that has caused your depression --- due possibly to the loss of loved one, loss of job, loss of an important client, project failure, embarrassment for whatever reason. You feel you're alone and you simply shriek in pain.

This is usually the time that you overlook the strength you don't know you have. Let me elaborate.

The Secret of Maintaining the Fire of Love in Relationships

Maintaining the Fire of Love in love relationships is no longer as difficult as it used to.

"Hey Mister! Which way is it to _____? Do we turn left? or right?" Have you asked this question along the road lately? It's normal to get lost from time to time. We just need to know how to get back on track.

We ask for directions about almost everything. But in asking directions in love relationships, we need to agree first on how to name the streets.
Photo Credit: 'Everywhere but here?' by Will Ockenden

Studies show that women, typically, don't have trouble asking for directions. Most men don't ask for directions, thinking, "My map is enough!" or "This manual is enough!" A map is important in everything, including love relationships.

Anyone Else Who Misuse the Power of Words?

Are you harnessing well the power of your own words to get what you want? Say this loudly, "I am a money magnet." Did you just speak truth? or falsehood? Your answer defines your results. Let me elaborate.

Misusing the power of words is like driving a Ferrari to pull your cart. You use up a lot of gas. What a waste! I'm not referring to the gas.
Photo credit: 'Ferrari 458 Italia' by Philipp Lücke

Henry Ford is quoted,

"If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right." 

That principle of the universe shocks a lot of people - to their core.

The Truth About Blaming

Blaming is easy and sweet. Taking responsibility requires a bit more effort. But blaming puts the power over your life and happiness to another person, or something, or an event. Is that really what you want?

What does this poster mean?
"Responsibility" by PaDumBumPsh

I can see you breathing heavily, heart pumping, and feeling so sure that it has not been your fault -- it is most definitely his or her fault. Therefore, that person must take the consequence. I respect that and I have no intention of changing that.

Let me elaborate ...

Setting Life Goals: Breaking Free From the "Rope" That Puts You in Place

It could just have tugged the rope and broken itself free. But the big elephant won’t. Its large size is no match to the power of its own mental program that shouts, "F O R G E T     I T !"

There's a lesson for us in the way circus organizers tame the elephants.
Untitled photo by Dave Malkoff

This is what happens when we live life and encounter obstacles most of the time. This feeling manifests when you see something that really catches you --- a health regimen, or a potential partner, or a mansion, or a car, or a cruise ... you name it. You feel like you want it so badly, but then you feel cold water all over you as you feel the "rope." You say, "Forget it!"

5 Powerful Things You Didn't Know About Daydreaming

When you were a kid, you were taught that daydreaming was bad, weren't you? To be accused of daydreaming was almost like being accused of being lazy. So, you have stopped daydreaming. Big mistake! Let me explain.

“Everything is always created twice, first in the mind and then in reality.” ~ Jim Rohn
Photo Credit: 'Daydream Farm #1' by Michael Galkovsky

Daydreaming is one of the most powerful tools that achievers use. Maybe someone already told you that. What have been your impression when you heard that?

Here are the five powerful things you probably didn't know about daydreaming:

I can’t change you, so I’ll change you!

My brain overheated. That was after hearing a popular speaker say this in one of his audio talks ...

I can’t change you, so I’ll change you."

10 Items (myself included) by Darwin Bell ... the picture title smartly explains the picture, doesn't it? 

I screamed in terror, “Hey, you don’t make any sense!”

There are actually two meanings of the word “change” that would change our perspectives altogether. One is “to alter.” The other is “to switch.” All of a sudden the statement changes from being funny to being scary, doesn’t it?

10 Quotes That Can Change Your Life

Quotes are oftentimes the better messengers. Sometimes, the message of an hour-long lecture is captured by one smartly formulated quote.

Favourite Celebrity Quote no.147 - Marilyn Manson
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Here's a collection of ten quotes that could change your life ...

Quote #1 - Health

Illness is the most heeded of doctors: to goodness and wisdom we only make promises; pain we obey.

Marcel Proust

The Secret (and Cool) Art of Losing Steam

I see you. You sit down at your office today and realize that you no longer cared as much as you used to. You lost steam.

You feel like a driftwood today, and you are concerned about which beach the waves will bring you. Don't worry. You're bound for the Caribbean :) (Photo Credit: 'Driftwood' by Peter Mulligan)

Just a few months or few years ago, many things used to agitate you into passionate action -- the sales target, the complaint from a client, the morale of your team, the decision that you badly need from the management, the aggressive competition, and many more.

Emotional Vampires are Real Vampires, Beware!

Vampires, as we know, them may by mythical, but BEWARE . . . emotional vampires are real! They are as vicious and as deadly as the "manananggals" of the Philippines or the vampires of the West.

Manananggal in Philippine Folklore, the closest there is to Vampires in the West. Mananggals suck blood of babies in mothers' wombs.
Photo Credit: Wikipedia

What's the first picture that appears in your mind with the word "vampire"? Most likely you're seeing fangs, pale faced humans with blood dripping from their mouths. Yes, western vampires are indeed blood suckers.

Ten Tough Questions To Ask When the Going Gets Tough

This song title says it all: When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Gets Going. The question is, how do we become tough?

Does that title ring a bell to you? It's the title of the song by Billy Ocean in 1985, which made it to the charts in US and Europe. It was also the soundtrack of the movie Jewel of the Nile.

Most of those who are between 35 to 45 years old today may have loved that song 24 years ago. Most have their own families to take care of. By now some of them may already be in managerial or executive positions. Others may have started their own businesses in the last 10 years.

Are you one of them?

Your Online Life Coach Invites you to Your Perfect Day

Your online life coach invites you to review or create your Perfect Day today.

Do you happen to already have a description of how your Perfect Day looks like? If so, how often do you "daydream" about your Perfect Day? How detailed is it in your mind? Have you written the description down? If so, wow, you're way ahead over more than 95% of the people. Still, let's go over it today.

See that great smile? Lovely, isn't it? Infectious too, right? Imagine smiling like that and being surrounded by smiles like that. Perfect Day! (Photo Credit: "LeeshAyss" by Andres Rodriguez)

Hey, you don't have an idea how your Perfect Day looks like? That's fine. Most people are in this area. They don't have an idea simply because, they haven't thought about it! No problem! If so, just continue reading on.